Thursday, 5 June 2008

From out of the "are you for real" files

Recently I was asked if I preferred the "company of women". What sort of question is that? Do I have great female friends? YES!

Do I spend time with my running Wooo Hooo girlfriends? YES!

Do I have a female friend who is "more than just a friend"?

Normally I don't air my very personal issues on my blog, but this is for the record.


And no, I am NOT against gay, lesbian, homosexual relationships. Some of my best friends are and were, (they have passed away) in very happy, loving openly gay relationships. I truly had and still have a blast with them.

So, no, I am and always have been happily heterosexual.

Truth be told, I have been on my own, single, old maid, spinster whatever the term you prefer for eight years now. Maybe it is a growing, learning who I am, what I will put up with, what I won't put up with, learning about myself, spiritually and otherwise journey I am on.

The journey has been long and often arduous, but I have battled major health issues, surgery and and now have a clean slate, all that while I had the rug pulled out from under me when I least expected it. All I can say is I've come out of it a better (not bitter, well I was for awhile, but that's a waste of good energy) person.

I can truthfully say I am happy with my life and absolutely embrace every new experience that comes my way, the good, the bad and the ugly.

For me, my wonderful friends have lived through it all with me, knowing when to offer advice, knowing when to let me stumble, fall and get up again on my own, but always being there for me when I most need them. Thank YOU!!!

When the time comes that I do find Mr. Wonderful, I'll be ready I suppose, everyone says it will happen when you least expect it.

So shove over P.O.M. there are two of us in the singles boat!!

Life's fun if you don't weaken,


* I just received an email from "Connect With Other Active Singles in Your Area!"
Is the universe trying to tell me something? LMAO!!!


TNTcoach Ken said...

Okay................How bout those Red Wings!

Lily on the Road said...

LMAO Ken!!

How 'bout those Red Wings???

Xenia said...

Three in the singles boat. I'm so proud I am in such kick-ass company. :)

Kim said...

Coach-Red Wings SUCK! LOL

And-for one-it's nobody's business unless it was someone that may have been 'interested' in you...maybe? Crap-who cares!

You take that independent freedom of being single and enjoy every minute of it! There is nothing wrong with being single or in a relationship-just as long as everyone is happy-that's what matters!

jahowie said...

Good luck finding Mr. Right!! There are so few of us out there. LOL!!

Anonymous said...

I am with ya Lily! (even though I keep saying I would like Blondie to be my wife - because she has many talents I don't have!) But yanno probably won't happen in this decade!

Being comfortable in my own skin is probably more important and demonstrates *something* positive to the two female offspring! (-:


Marcy said...

Damn, there goes my lesbo fantasy ;-) LOL JK! (Just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm dead :P)

I don't understand why "other" people assume that someone is gay or has some sort of issues if they aren't married or with someone by X age. It's no one's business and GOOD FOR YOU for not letting other peeps bring you down ;D ;D ;D

Nat said...

Maybe they were trying to set you up.. ;)

Honestly... what does it matter.

Rudy said...

blondie is not available! heh

and Lily, truly when you least expect it.

Shouting at a seed won't make it grow but give it a proper environment and it will flourish. So keep on developing the relationship with your real self (getting comfortable in your own skin as M puts it) and in his own good time - the right time - Mr. W will show up.

There are a few of us good seeds still around.


triguyjt said...

In the grand scheme of things....what the hell does it matter....
on a similar note, the bride used to tell everyone that on our 30th anniv she was gonna go gay".

30 came and went..and we remain in the same boring-non-gay relatonship...ohhh goes on....
he typed...tongue in cheek

Groover said...

Hey Lily, it shows that you are happy with who you are in each and every post of yours! And you've got good reason to be as you seem such a lovely, warm, lively person with a great sense of humour. Good on ya! Sure Mr Right will come along one day and see that, too. Until then enjoy your singledom.

Non-Runner Nancy said...

Wow. Well, for the record, I never thought you preferred the company of the ladies. hee hee. I can't believe someone asked you that. You sound pretty dang awesome and strong. I'm glad you didn't get bitter. :D

I always tell POM, if I was a guy, I'd marry her. Maybe we should work on a threesome. HA HA

OMG, did I say that? Too funny.

Anyway, I think you rock. It sounds like you have fun and make the most of life. If you're happy, I'm happy for you!!


Chris said...

I never got that vibe from you. And if I did, it wouldn't matter. I like you :)

bluecolnago said...

i'm with crazy chris....

"be who you are and say what you feel, for those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"
~dr. seuss

Viv said...

I hate when people make that kind of assumption. I have been asked that once as well in my single days. Does someone have to have a man stapled to their side?? Ever heard of the power of women, and dear femal friends...
OK I am LMAO at Nanc, yet mad that I was invited to the 3some.

P.O.M. said...

Oh sheesh. Who would ask such a lame ass question?

I would have just said "yes" and left it at that. ha ha

Here's to being HAPPILY SINGLE!